We are grieving from the recent passing of my mother in law. My partner and I were having a late night conversation about our perspective days and how the shock of her passing so quickly had really shocked us. Both of us admitted that we were a bit foggy in the work we could do and that we had a hard time getting anything done because of the processing of that shock. We both agreed to be gentle with ourselves when it came to what we really expected we would be able to do.
During this conversation I came up with a great metaphor for this shock processing. I saw it like when you are working on your computer while it is updating, backing up or downloading something in the background while you are trying to use another program at the same time. The computer program you are using is slow because some the cognitive faculties of the computer is working on this background project. Our minds are like that computer when we are processing a recent grief. We can slip into a mental fog while we try to do things because our subconscious is still processing and adjusting to the loss in our lives.
As a consulting hypnotist and intuitive I reflect a lot on how much our subconscious is taking care of in the background for us. In other instances I use techniques to hand off things to the subconscious to process in the background for me because it is better equipped to handle it. Those practices are not ones I would use right now until I feel less fogged over with grief. Right now I am being gentle with my slow processing speed and giving my self space to emote and adjust to this loss.